He’s a recent widower (wife died of cancer in June 2010.) We started dating just after Labor Day. We live about an hour and 1/2 apart and he has a very high level job and a big house to take care of (and a dog.) There has been no sex yet but lots of “foreplay.” He says he always waits to have sex until he’s more sure of the woman.
I want to see more of him at this point (3 months,) especially on Saturday nights.
Yet even among my closest friends, I would experience "well-meaning" advice, words and comments that really stung.
In the year 2000 I was happily married (for 13 years, together for 20) to my college sweetheart, with a lovely home and two young children.
Then one day I began the process of discovering my husband's long-standing affair—with someone I knew very well. And though I met and married a wonderful man— and have been married for over 10 years—the hurt and pain of that time is still there. I was (and still am) very lucky to have an incredible network of friends and family—without whom I would have never come out the other side as successfully as I did.
The fears, anger, hurt and complications that accompany divorce are there 24/7, as opposed to the temporary "single" status that occurs when a spouse is away. "I kind of envy your 'alone' time."Another well-meaning comment that ultimately stings. No matter the cause, divorce almost always feels—on some level—like failure.
Mainly because even in moments when I was enjoying my "alone" time, the reason for it would quickly overwhelm. A comment like this just pours salt on the wound.6.
Having them around me made me feel happy, loved, not alone. () "I feel like SUCH a single mom this week."No you don't.