Jolisa Brewster is a south girl, who is still adapting to her adopted town life.
She loves to talk as much as much as she loves to write, and is currently pursuing a degree in media and communications. When she isn't talking her family to death, you can find her eating her way around Trinidad and writing about it. is a Caribbean, online, weekly, lifestyle magazine that is written for, by, and about Caribbean people in their 20s to mid 40s, based regionally and abroad.
In my case, we haven’t really had any tension thus far. there are many people out there who have a child with their ex. Coming to terms with it depends on what the single (and childless) individual is willing to accept, all in the name of love and finding ‘the one’. something even more special is added to the relationship, as the guy would have to trust you to take such a big step in introducing you to his prized possession, and it’s often a good sign that he takes you seriously.
All women aren’t the same and not every ex will bring drama or real ‘tote’ because of her ‘child fadda’s’ present relationship. Based on my experience, I’ll say that being open minded to a situation like this can be rewarding. Seeing a man with a child does give an inclination of the type of father he makes, and females – me included – tend to look for that particular quality when choosing our mates.
Bear in mind that dating someone with a child would initially lead to you meeting the child or children, and having to build a relationship with them, not to mention gaining their trust as well. Naturally, there would be hiccups; when disagreements occurred between the exes, this stressed out my guy, which in turn affected us, but we worked it out.
Now it may seem rather funny, but I’ll admit that I was highly nervous the first time I met my guy’s child. In this type of relationship, things can also become even more complicated than they already are, so communication is key.
She is learning to not take life too seriously and plan so much. We religiously publish original content every Monday.