I’ve tried that route and it doesn’t work — you have to lead with actions and your mindset will follow.
Be true to yourself and your needs as part of your daily life.
They love touching, hand holding and physical affection that does not always have to lead to sex. They worry about pleasing, performing, being loved for who they are--and being able to protect and care for the women they love.
* If you don't love and respect yourself, you are basically sending him a message that he doesn't have to make an effort to be with you and have you in his life. If you insist on honesty, respect and thoughtfulness, and give it in return--you will have the relationship you want, or know it is time to cut your losses and move on.
Too many guys in today’s society are in my opinion too wimpy. It’s a turnoff for most women to be with a sissy ass guys who put them up on a pedestal and tries to make her make all the decisions.