The key focus now was making it as easy as possible for women to meet each other, focused on starting conversations and creating a community.
HER offers a lot of different options for gender and sexual identity — what went into creating such an inclusive list? If there’s a new one that comes in, we will add it to the list. HER is the community it is because the people who come to it all have a sense of identity that is outside of the mainstream. How has the app changed in the past few months, especially as the political climate has transformed?
No one understood what LGBT life was like for women.
The diverse, exciting queer community I was seeing at bars and events wasn’t available online. How exactly did your project differ from other popular apps at the time?
I went on to date a number of trans guys, and in my mind, “bi” was also indicative of a gender binary I didn’t believe existed.
I’ve since come to understand that actually, the “bi” implies attraction not to two genders, but to members of both one’s own and other genders, and that the bisexual umbrella includes a wide rainbow of labels connoting sexual fluidity. Given all that struggle and growth, my current situation might come as a surprise: I’m in a committed, long-term relationship with a cisgender man who identifies as straight—just like a startling majority of other bisexual women.
Unlike other sites, the platform offers a multitude of sexual and gender identities, all of which are displayed on a user’s profile.