I know this election, in particular, has been extremely divisive, but this is not the time to start sharing your opinions on politics or any other possibly fiery topics. We just avoid those topics because we are adults and enjoy our friendship. The woman you’re talking to is a human being, not an object. I know men tend to just say what enters their heads without passing it through a filter.If you draw out a position that is different from yours right off the bat, you might completely discount the person. It prompts interesting discussions and opens our eyes to multiple sides of an issue, so keep your convo light and fun at the beginning. It can be understandable in person when they get their wires crossed and trip over their tongue. When I am instructing my male clients, I tell them to imagine they are talking to their sister or grandmother at first. The flirting can come later after you’ve had a few emails or calls.
While both men and women do this, I find the ladies do it a bit more.
It makes sense as women are usually more communicative than guys. Learn about each other in person instead of scrolling through their posts.
If they tell you a slightly embarrassing story, guess what you should do? If someone writes to you “Hey, I like that picture of you in Tulum! People are just testing the water with their first emails. There is no correlation between bad spelling or grammar and intelligence. Keep your homonyms straight (your, you’re) and your possessives minimal (it’s, its).
I know you use internet slang and text language to your friends, but this is not your friend.
If you haven’t tried it, probably many of your friends have.