By that same token, there are times and places where the social context says that says that it’s acceptable to approach a stranger and that a person’s presence is a general acceptance of the social contract.These places include: variables that can affect what behavior is and isn’t appropriate; the same behavior that’s appropriate at a club is creepy as hell at work.You’re incongruent with the location and that can be incredibly creepy to people; it tells others that you either don’t understand the rules that govern what is and isn’t acceptable or you don’t .
One of the hard and fast rules of dating and not being creepy is recognizing that everybody has boundaries and those boundaries are flexible; some people have greater levels of access to us than others because we have different levels of intimacy with them.
One of the keys of what makes somebody creepy is very simple: creepers assume a greater level of intimacy than actually exists.
While there are obviously no hard and fast classifications, this list should serve as a decent rule of thumb.
Dating 101 – Online dating, warm approaches, meeting friends of friends, parties Dating 201 – Cold approaches at bars and clubs, some low-key, low-investment daytime approaches (bookstores, coffee shops, comic stores, etc.) Dating 301 – More advanced daytime approaches (the mall, the gym, grocery stores) Dating 401 – Street approaches, public transit, etc. There’s a reason for that: it’s a fucking stupid idea.
Approaching people you don’t know and have no connection to means that you have to behave accordingly.