Your husband must find a therapeutic intervention that provides him with the help he needs to communicate nonviolently.If your stepson is seeing a regular talk therapist, and it’s not helping, your husband should consider finding someone who specializes in anger management, behavioral intervention, and preventing violence.
If you found out that a man you were about to sleep with felt this way, you would stop immediately, because you would be wholly uninterested in having sex with a partner who was not genuinely enthusiastic.
You would not want him to put on a good show, grit his teeth, and get through it.
The authors conducted nine focus groups with domestic violence service providers about their perceptions of child safety planning.
This article reports on the findings and implications of this focus group study that can inform the safety planning needs of children impacted by domestic violence.
So treat yourself with the same kindness and generosity.