Maybe you’re really old-fashioned and you just see someone you like at a bar, or coffee shop, or in the park. Like the same band/movie/TV show/sport/team/game/whatever as you? Also their favorite song should be Countdown, because Countdown is the shit. But let’s say you’re on Tinder, and you see this ever-familiar screen while Jeopardy music begins to play: Don’t be like me and let this happen to you, kids. Because there are over 6 billion people in the world and all any of them wants, romantically speaking, is to find someone who thinks they’re cooler than everyone else. Why did you want to talk to them in the first place? Why is dating literally the worst thing humanity has ever created? Now if ye give place, that a [relationship] may be planted in your heart, behold, if it be a true [relationship], or a good [relationship], if ye do not cast it out by your [pickiness, laziness, busyness, fear of commitment, etc.]…it will begin to swell within your breasts…”We must try things out!
And though you might experience fireworks, you also might just have a long peaceful feeling that it is right—a feeling that grows with effort. Claybaugh said, “Some people expect the Lord to provide a dramatic revelation about their eternal mate, but what usually happens is that we drop our defenses and communicate with a potential spouse, we experience subtle, ongoing spiritual promptings about the relationship.
Inspiration can come only when we are honest with ourselves, our potential mates, and the Lord” (“Dating: A Time to Become Best Friends,” I know that, at least in part, the reason I didn’t get engaged until I was 29 was because I neglected good sprouts, replacing them with fun, other girls, and fear.
Zack Oates is an entrepreneur, hot tubber and blogger (but not in that order, necessarily).
He lived in Ukraine for two years serving an LDS mission and started a nonprofit in 2008 called Courage to Hope, which works with victims of domestic violence in Ukraine.
He has traveled to six different continents in six months this year, and recently proposed to his beautiful fiancée.