Does that describe anybody else besides those brilliant men you’re drawn to? And I wouldn’t be all that shocked if it somewhat described you as well. And I put up with the same things that you have to deal with from men – selfishness, difficulty, self-righteousness and so on. Because most of our lives are not spent discussing the finer points of Proust, or the best way to fix the 2-party system, or the science behind String Theory… My wife hasn’t done any of that personal growth stuff and you know what?
But I spent the first 35 years of my life chasing women who were just like me – the smartest women in the room. Have you ever been with a brilliant guy who is, at heart, a miserable person? And I’ll bet you’d do it again – hoping for a different ending this time. My female friends want it all, height, money, intelligence, looks, full head of hair etc…the guys i know who have it all(for the most part) are happy with a fun, attractive girl.
” If I had a dollar for the number of women who have said that to me, well, let’s just say I’d be writing this from Tahiti, not Los Angeles.
By the time a woman hooks up with the guy, only afterward will she see his true colors.
Her “” moment comes at a time after she’s given everything to him.
Which begs the question: Settling for a deadbeat loser is like settling for a job you hate.
There are way too many people who hate their jobs and keep on doing them, just like there are way too many women who settle for men who treat them poorly.
You’d make adjustments if you alienated your co-workers and wanted to feel better from 9-5 every day. And a big reason you struggle to connect with men is because you’re so bright. Like many of you, I’m a bit of an intellectual snob.